Jeff and I slipped away for Veteran's Day 3 day weekend. The extra day was sooooo good as Little Palmer says all the time. We were able to stay up there for both days of the weekend and rest and enjoy, then drive home on Monday. Just what I was needing before the holidays get going.
As we move towards Thanksgiving and Christmas. My mind begins to plan and think, but somehow it is always a time where I am very reflective.
Last October, I pulled the journals out again. I always use Moleskins. I prefer unlined paper, but the one I started with then was lined. I guess it keeps from getting larger and larger as I pour out those emotions. I filled up one and started a new one this week.
A lot has been thrown at me the last couple of years and there are a few things that keep me grounded. Morning Scripture within the first half hour of my day, walks outside in nature with Gus of course, going downstairs to sit and listen to music and peruse an old magazine (I don't buy new ones anymore), puttering in the flowers, lots of prayer time, and getting the thoughts out of my head via a journal so it doesn't get too cluttered to name a few.
I really really want to blog some Treasures' posts. I want to write about some things that are special that I can't hold on to like my mom's china for one. Those posts are coming. Lately though, I have just had more in a day than I can do. Hopefully, after the new baby is born and I get a little time from babysitting (which I love doing) will leave me with some time to do some of that.
The other day as I was writing I was thinking how much I have decluttered and how my generation has been the generation of keeping things. I am the household of so many family things that I have been left with. I do love them, but I realize I can't continue this forever. I was chatting with a couple who are our friends. They were saying the same thing. We just chuckled and commiserated together. Now, if I stayed put, it would not be a problem other than thinking my kids would have so much to go through.
I have worked on the sentimental things and have made much progress. I still have a ways to go, but....
this morning....
Jeff went off to a meeting. He has allowed himself to be on one board and it has been just enough I think to keep him busy. He also has church duties. He needs a little, but not too much.
While there, my sister-in-law, Donna's bestie called Jeff. I can just hear her now. "Jeff, I have a house for you to downsize too."
I didn't even know she knew we were thinking of it. To be honest, the fact that she knows puts terror in me. She is go getter.
Anyway, I truly felt a very anxious half hour before I got hold of myself. I was thinking there is no way I am moving at Christmas!
This home is 40 years old next month. Jeff and I married in September 40 years ago, and his parents moved in our current home in December. The tree was up and boxes were all over, but the first of 37 Christmas Eves have been spent here for our family. The only 2 that we haven't spent here were the one before my mother-in-law died and the one just after her death . The first one, she had full time caregivers and she was able to come to our home around the corner. The next year she had passed in October before Christmas and we were in the process of clearing the house and deciding what to do with everything.
This year will be the 38th Christmas Eve here. I know things will change, but my heart for about half an hour couldn't even register something like that.
I think it was the nudge I need to probably get serious about some things. I am going to pull out the things the children can look at over the holidays and have them go through some items.
Now, the lady does not have our idea quite down because while the home she wanted us to get is waterfront, one story, smaller and all that, it will not minimize the taxes and insurance one deals with in Florida. I was able to relax for the moment. Oh and while I get up every day and enjoy my view I don't think waterfront will guide our next home. Smaller, one story, newer...things like that will be important.
Change comes whether we want it or not.
On that note, I am going to go get cracking on preparing my home for the holidays and then as '25 comes in I am going to try and be realistic about some things. Lots of prayer and reflecting will continue through this next month.
That is it for now,
Sandy
BTW, Blogger is at it again. All comments are coming in as no reply bloggers. I even saw this on another blogger. So I can only comment back on the blog. Hopefully, it will fix itself.
I guess I must've missed the post where you said you were thinking about moving. I understand perfectly, and will pray for you as you consider this and move forward perhaps in the new year. May God direct your steps to find the home that will be perfect for you. (((hugs)))
ReplyDeleteWe have talked about it for a few years now, but haven't been completely serious. We have driven around for probably 6 months looking and kind of thinking, but never again really serious. But this lady doesn't fool around, so that sort of scared me that it was getting real. He has this though...I know HE does.
DeleteI will be praying for you and this big decision you have in front of you. We "downsized" when I retired back in 2017 but the only thing smaller was the yard and no swimming pool or 2-car garage. The house is the same square footage! I chuckle about it now and then. Do keep us posted and feel the love.
ReplyDeleteI really would love to stay where we are but there are a number of reasons to downsize. I will keep y’all abreast of the search or non search.
DeletePraying for you about the downsizing things and homes. Amazing what our kids don't want - ha! I keep trying to go through room by room and then start over, sometimes better than others. Your first few paragraphs encouraged me to journal feelings, thoughts, even prayers so I can "take every thought captive" as Corinthians says and not go down unreal rabbit trails of 'what if'. Blessings . . .
ReplyDeleteWhat a reflective and thought invoking post, Sandy! Moving is hard at any stage, but even more so as we get older. And you are right about change comes whether or not we want it. Thinking of you and know the He has your life's plan in His hand.
ReplyDeleteThoughts of down-sizing run through my mind, too, Sandy, but I think we're at least five or ten years away from it. That being said--if the perfect home showed up down near my grandson, we'd be there in a flash :) I wish you luck as you search. Take your time and don't rush your search. I wish I was as good as you about cleaning out "stuff." I sure wish my kids wanted more, but that isn't happening. Guess everything will go to Goodwill in the end which makes me sad. Take care now and I hope you have a relaxing weekend! ♥
ReplyDeleteSince going through my DH's parents home, and 6 months later doing the same with my brother's home, and moving shortly after all that, we have been on a more serious quest to downsize our belongings. But it's not quick or linear at all. It's very much a process. While I love living in this home we purchased in a country neighborhood on one acre, I do suspect we'll end up downsizing one more time - and likely moving back into town eventually. Sometimes I think this property was a dumb choice, and sometimes I think it was genius. At the time, we truly believed God had provided it as an undeserved gift - so I guess I should land there and stay there. :) It IS nice to be in a one-story house that we should be able to manage well into older age, and because the square footage is generous for two people, it gives us a more relaxed pace to downsize our belongings.
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