August brought more intense heat and a birthday for sweet little grandson #3, Miles. He turned 1 year old and his party was scheduled for outside even though it is hot. If you dare to live in Florida, then you know it is hot .... you grin and bear it. It came a torrential downpour and lightning storm though, so plans were changed to inside. All worked out just fine.
July and thus far in August have been some really really hot days with heat indexes in the upper 110's most days. My emotions have run the gamut from intense sadness to a smile mixed in to keep the sanity. It was not the summer I had planned, but it was the summer I got, so I am doing my best to find some goodness in it.
One good thing was little Miles's party. Katie decorated their tiny home so cute, and both families piled inside and made it work. Paul Allen braved the elements from the porch to grill hotdogs and hamburgers. Little Miles seemed to enjoy it all. I will blow up this post with all the cuteness of the decorations and Miles.
Entering the house, Katie had put up a banner with pictures of Miles taken over this past year.
Near the table she had all kinds of baseball things including a hat from Paul Allen's childhood.
Jeff and Paul Allen moved the big pieces to Mama's new assisted living facility today. She will spend her first night over there tomorrow night. I am going to move her stuff slowly there. The plan is to let her get in with just the basics and add to it as she thinks of something she wants. I will do some light decorating over the next couple of evenings. For the remainder of August I will just let her get settled in and slowly let family come in and get what they want and then after Labor Day I will see about having a sale at her place.
Mother seems to have trouble even thinking about what she wants to take because of leaving behind so much. I totally get it, but I am even having to pick out clothes to take. Hopefully, she will fully get in the groove soon.
None of this has been easy. While she has good days, this was just a life changing fall. I think she will improve, but there was just no way she could keep her home like she liked it or cook. The fall just slowed her roll. The place she is going is very nice. It is just an adjustment for all of us. We took her over this afternoon after we had moved the large pieces in so she could see how that looked. There was a church service going on and she seemed quite interested. Jeff forced her to pop in and look and there were many ladies who look like great candidates for Mom's next best friend. Praying for that!!!!
The facility already had her name at the refreshment station in the town square.
When I get her all settled in I will take pictures of her new home for the blog. I am praying for good days like today for her. There have been some really low days this summer for both of us. Jeff too.
Thanks to so many of you have sent me words of encouragement. ---Sandy
P.S. Barbara at Sweet Tea and Sandals accidentally permanently deleted her blog. Shudder to think... Here is her new blog address -
Prayers with your mom. I am getting older and older. Praying can have someone come in when needed.
ReplyDeletePrayers for your mom to settle in and be at peace in her new place. I will also pray she quickly makes friends there. Thank you for letting us know about Barbara's blog!
ReplyDeleteI have been thinking of you too Becki. Handling all the crazy has brought me to my prayer time more than ever so you are on that list. I pray Mother will make friends quickly too.
DeleteMiles certainly looked like he enjoyed his party and his cake. Great theme for a party! His water table looks like fun. I hope your Mama settles into her new place and it is a good fit for her. Continuing to keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers, Sandy.
ReplyDeleteWhat a cute bd party for Miles and I am sure it lifted your spirits. Katie did such a good job and I know she appreciates the Cricuit. I will pray that your mama settles into her new place and will make some new friends. If she makes friends, that will take a load off of you, Sandy. Praying you get some rest this week as well.
ReplyDeleteGreetings Sandy: Miles is adorable and the decorating is so cute.
ReplyDeleteI know how hard it can be to move a parent, it was hard with my Father mother in law and Father in law.
The places now are so welcoming, the refreshment station is so cute.
I hope you Mother is able to transition easily.
The water station and playhouse are so sweet, Miles looks so happy.
Have a wonderful week.
Hugs
Catherine
It sounds like the transition for your mom is going well, even though I know it's a huge undertaking with a lot of decisions to make about everything. The birthday party for Palmer looks wonderful. Wish I could have had one of those cupcakes!!! Thank you so much for the announcement about the change with my blog. I appreciate the help.
ReplyDeleteIt will be so nice to have your Mother there but I know how hard the move can be. We had to do that for my mother in law a couple of years ago. It was an enormous task and I'm glad we were able to do it. Take care! I'll go visit Barbara now! Thanks for letting us know!
ReplyDeleteWhen I had to move my dear friend, Helen, to assisted living it was covid time. The place was basically closed down. No communal dining, no crafts, no visitors except family and we had to take a covid test and wait for the results before we could go in. It was devastatingly lonely and not a time to make a change like that even though it had to be done. Miles was celebrated well and your cake and cupcakes were SO CUTE! It's a blessing to have those boys!! Hugs!
ReplyDeleteThanks for letting us know about Barbara's blog. I've always been afraid that would happen to me! Have already visited her at the new place.
ReplyDeletePraying for you and the eldercare responsibilities. The assisted living looks like a very nice place and I'm sure she will find friends quickly.
I hope and pray that your dear mother is settling in well, Sandy. I'm glad you found a place that suits her and I'm sure she'll make friends quickly. And you can rest at night knowing she's got people to look after her.
ReplyDeleteLoved reading about Miles' birthday party--that first one is so very special! Katie is SO creative and it shows both in her home and at school. It's nice that you have a daughter-in-law who has things in common with you in terms of creativity :)
That's terrible about Barbara's blog--thank you for letting us know! Have a good week and I hope things calm down a bit knowing your mom is safe and cared for. ♥
P.S. For some reason blogspot isn't allowing me to comment with my normal Google account so I don't know if this will appear anonymously or what?! Anyway--this is Carol from Stitching Dreams :)
Looks like sweet little Miles had a great birthday, and his cake is awesome! I'm also impressed with Katie's cricut skills! Very cute! I know her students will enjoy their classroom decor. Thinking of you as you are in the midst of such tough decisions and responsibilities. I'm also so glad you alerted me about Barbara's blog! I would have sure missed it!
ReplyDeleteDear Sandy, Somehow I missed this post. I can't believe it's been a month already...I saw that you are celebrating an anniversary today! And thank you for your comment on my blog. But I didn't know your mother had gone to an assisted living. I know it was being considered before. Praying by now she is settling in and feeling somewhat "at home" there. I know it isn't easy. but once she gets used to the routine and all the activities and people around her, she will like it. My MIL actually thrived when she went to a nursing home. She loved having people to talk to and regular activities/routine...as much as she was able to do. So I pray for your mother and for YOU, as you adjust and decide what to do with so many things, etc. I totally understand. (((hugs)))
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